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Life After Divorce by Erin Adams, LPC, MAMFT, NCC

Life after divorce can be tough to navigate. There’s a swirl of emotions that many say make them feel “crazy” and an immense number of changes happening in almost every area of life. Divorce is a major loss and there will be a time of grieving. The emotions felt at divorce are very similar to those felt at the death of a loved one. So here are a few important things to remember if you or a loved one is going through a divorce.

Allow time to grieve.

This process can take 1-2 YEARS and in some cases as much as five years to find your feet again. But don’t let that discourage you – there is help! Joining a recovery group such as DivorceCare can offer tremendous support. Building relationships with others who have been there can really help you not feel so alone. If your grieving doesn’t seem to be progressing or becomes overwhelming, seek professional help from a trained therapist. The days and weeks immediately following a divorce are NOT the time to make major decisions like selling your home, re-marriage, quitting your job etc. Give yourself time to acclimate to the major changes that already come with divorce – your feelings will be all over the place for a while.

Wait to date.

This is also NOT the time to start dating! Give yourself time to heal; figure out what went right and what went wrong in your last relationship so that when it’s time for a new relationship you can start on the right foot. Besides, becoming involved in a new relationship before grieving is complete only complicates the healing process. It’s not fair to you or your new partner. And lastly, dive deeper into your faith. Faith community and connections offer healing, growth, and support. There is hope – You will find your new normal and life will be good again!

 

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