Barnabas Center
Barnabas Center

COVID-19 Update – Appointments Available

The Barnabas Center for Counseling has served Savannah and the Coastal Empire for over 25 years. There is a great need for families to get help to deal with depression, anxiety, and stress as we all cope with the effects of the Corona Virus (COVID-19). We offer individual, marriage, and family therapy for all ages, all of our therapist are state-licensed. We are currently seeing clients face to face in our office. Please know we will continue to offer telemental health sessions for those who desire it. We will be following Covid-19 protocols as we make this transition. For more information or to set up an appointment give us a call @ 912-352-7638. We look forward to seeing you!

Fighting for Peace by Cathy Clevenger, LCSW

For many families, the morning can feel like a war zone every day of the week. For other families, the end of the day has us wondering if this is going to be another evening of feeling frustrated, agitated or extremely angry. If you’re not the angry one, then you’re concerned about someone else in the home. When we think of being with our family, ideally, we would like to enjoy our time together as much as possible. The reality is we are often tired, feeling overwhelmed and/or experiencing stress in many areas of our lives. Children and teenagers also experience these same emotions at the end of their day and their emotions are as valid as our emotions as adults. So, you ask yourself how can I fight for peace in my household? How can I help make it a nurturing environment with happy memories and laughter?

First, remember that you only have control over yourself and your choices. Each family member will have to choose to invest in making family time happy and enjoyable. Although we may be tired, putting effort and energy into creating this type of environment is one of the most important things any family member can do. The process will require work. Start by asking yourself what usually leads to the fighting, tension and/or anger. Then ask yourself how the family could handle these issues differently. If I don’t like the way a therapy session has gone or a situation in my own personal life, I’ve learned to ask myself how I could deal with it differently in the future. I brainstorm ideas and then try to implement the changes to see what works best. Second, I have learned that when frustration and anger begin to escalate, we need to quickly change gears and work on de-escalating the situation. Screaming and hurtful words only damage relationships. You want to build healthy, positive relationships within in your family. Start with one or two small changes and once you have mastered these changes of habit move on to other changes. Habits can be changed if you take one step at a time and remind yourself of what you are working towards.

If you need help with changing your family interactions, we at the Barnabas Center are here to help you brainstorm new ideas and change defeating patterns in your family interactions. We want you to be able to have a nurturing and joyful home environment, not perfect, but definitely an environment everyone wants to come home to each day.

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Do You React or Respond? Erin Adams, LPC, MAMFT, NCC

The dictionary defines reaction as behaving with hostility, opposition or contrary course of action. Interestingly, the definition of response is replying or answering in words or action. The differences are subtle but important. How many times have you caught yourself reacting to your spouse, kids or co-workers rather than responding? Have you reacted with words like: “What kind of grades are theses? Why can’t you pull it together?” or “Yeah. Well. Life isn’t fair” or “I’m done”? Instead of responding with comments such as: “You seem to be struggling with your studies. Let’s see if we can figure something out” or “I know the situation isn’t what you would like. Do you want to talk about it?” or “I’m frustrated right now. I’m gonna take a time out”. Choosing to respond rather than react is tough. It requires self-control over our thoughts and our tongues. But the reduction in tears and tension, broken hearts and broken relationships is worth the effort of learning how to build that self-discipline.

Here are a few quick tips to help you respond.

  1. Deep breaths really do help reduce tension. Take time to breathe deeply and collect your thoughts BEFORE speaking.
  2. Take a personal time out. This can give you time to really think about what you want or need and how to deliver that with care and compassion.
  3. Walk a mile in their How might your child, spouse or co-worker be feeling in this circumstance? Examining other perspectives often changes our own.

If you find you are still struggling with angry responses and would like to talk it through, give us a call.



If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline call 1-800-273-8255

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