We get yearly reviews at work. If you’re a student, you receive a report card each semester to measure your progress. What about a review or report card of our lives?
We set New Year’s resolutions and write bucket lists, but do we evaluate our lives? I have learned that taking time off work every 6-8 months helps me to see things more objectively. So, before the year ends and you set those New Year’s resolutions perhaps a Year in Review would be appropriate. How would we go about such an assessment?
A young military couple just left my office. The couple has young children and there has been marital discord and infidelity for years. After providing professional counseling for twenty-five years I cannot tell you how wonderful it is to be able to reassure such families and couples of incredible results based on what I have seen the Lord do in the lives of families that were facing similar struggles and worse (i.e. infidelity and substance abuse or domestic violence.)
Please know that I told this couple, just as I am telling you, that I take no credit for these amazing results. Psychology is a “soft science” meaning that the explanations for dramatic human behavioral change are only unprovable theories. As Christian counselors we are able to tap into the supernatural power of the Holy Spirit in people’s lives and as a result can expect amazing change, growth, and healing. But like my missionary aunt says “God moves the chess pieces of our lives to bless those who play chess with Him.”
What it takes for one person to surrender something unhealthy, or unhelpful in their lives is different for other people. In the counseling process we help our clients to figure out what it will take to surrender that thing or things that are keeping them from having peace, joy, and hope in their lives. Or maybe it’s not about surrender, but to learn new ways of processing the issues so as to see that “(Christ’s) power is made perfect in weakness.” (2 Cor. 12:9). And to know that “The weapons we fight with are not weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to make it obedient to Christ.” (2 Cor. 10:4-5).
Some of the most common struggles are: anxiety, depression, loss, loneliness, anger, difficulty forgiving, substance abuse, parenting struggles, and difficulty negotiating. If you or a loved one is struggling with any of these issues or others we at the Barnabas Center consider it a privilege to come along side you and help you experience the power of the Holy Spirit in the solution.
Bill Immel LPC