Covered In Grace
We’ve all struggled to move past our sin and instead choose to sit in shame. In my work with clients, we often sift through the aftermath of their choices. This leaves me reiterating time and time again that God has grace for us in ALL things - even when it’s hard to believe.
Romans 5:20 reads, in part, “where sin increased, grace abounded all the more.” We know there is no limit to God’s grace. So why is it hard for us to accept and live in His grace? Why do we instead choose shame? A few reasons are below:
1) Misunderstanding the character of God
Believers and non-believers alike have a warped view of God. In order to move past shame we must first understand who God is. He is forgiving, just, kind, and understanding (amongst many other things). God stands ready and waiting for us to receive His grace. Out of perfect love, grace, and mercy God sent Jesus to allow us a way out of our pattern of sin. It is not within God’s character to desire that we remain ashamed.
“For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through Him.” John 3:17
2) Believing the lie that Christians must be perfect (works-based faith)
There are many Biblical examples of Christ followers who had previously messy pasts. Paul murdered Christians before he knew God! Instead of sitting in shame over his past, Paul began radically sharing God’s message. Imagine Paul’s ministry (or lack thereof) if he sat in the shame of his past sins. Chasing perfection will only leave us feeling more and more broken. Perfection is an unrealistic goal and God knows this. That is the beauty of Christ’s death and resurrection- we can recognize our sin, accept the gift of Christ, and move forward.
3) Trying to forget our sin without addressing the root
Good ole’ avoidance. This is a crowd favorite, but it’s ineffective. Sometimes healing is more complex than we’d like it to be which leads to avoidance or distraction. It's necessary to work through our feelings about all things, including our own mistakes and sin. Distraction and avoidance often further this cycle of shame.
You are loved and known by the creator of the universe. He did not intend for us to live shame-filled lives but to instead live like we are covered in the blood of Jesus (because we are)!
Skylar Haak, LAPC
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